sorrow and bliss
I must eat my words. The bookshop attendant who I was a little mean about earlier on, showed me the best book that I have read this summer. This read was probably the best time I’ve had reading any book in years. . Again, I don’t read much, and I don’t necessarily think this book is ground-breaking, I just thoroughly enjoyed it. And I guess that counts for something.
I’d like to point out that despite this incredible recommendation, I maintain skepticism for the bookshop attendant’s other suggestions. They seemed boring, and this was the one book he mentioned that he had not read, but came highly recommended to him by his female friends.
Ok so I must now attempt to explain the plot. With no help whatsoever from the blurb – which in my opinion misrepresents the entire story, and must have been written by someone who only read the first 50 pages of the book. Martha Friel is the main character. Her whole life, she deals with these episodes. I don’t want to use the word mania, because it’s far less sensational than that word can sound. Anyways let’s just say she has a hard time, but not in the same way that most people could understand without experiencing. Sometimes she manages it very well, sometimes, her who life blows up in smoke. She marries a man called Patrick, a doctor. I’m having a really tough time trying to explain this book without spoiling it. It’s not that this book has a massive reveal, it’s just you have to go along the journey with her. To go with her to the million different doctors who tell her a million different things. Until someone finally understands her. She reacts strangely. With anger. Talk about a flawed main character.
It’s written in the first person – which I know I love. It’s quite a long book – which I thought I hated. But turns out those two things were what made the end so gratifying. I have now reread the last 50 pages of the book 3 times. Meg Mason (the author) leaves so many breadcrumbs throughout which just makes it all the more emotional and meaningful when Martha comes to terms with her way of being. I should say, this all sounds very sad but the book itself is incredibly funny. I laughed out loud several times. But then again I’m easily entertained. Martha’s “problem” (I don’t know how else to label it) is never outright named by the author. I looked it up and she says it’s because she didn’t want to misrepresent any particular mental illness. And because everyone’s experience of severe mental health issues looks very different. I think that’s simply brilliant. It means you can freely relate to pieces of the main character, without it meaning anything specific for yourself as the reader, or the author. It was just such a well written book about mental health, in my opinion. And that must be very very hard to write.
All I want is for all my friends to read this book, so I can discuss it with them. Turns out, that’s what reading a good book feels like to me: wanting to talk about it for hours.
Her character gets into the habit of sending alphabet poems with one of her fabulous friends – as suggested by her father (a poet). I have tried, but I am no writer, and no poet, and this was quite tricky. I fail miserably towards the end of the alphabet. I’ll admit the end goes off the rails there. It’s harder than it looks. So I had some other tries. Here they all are:
At
Best,
Caring
Deeply
Eventually
Falters.
Good
Hearted
Individuals
Just
Keep
Loving
Mindlessly,
Not
Often
Performances
Quite
Returned.
Still,
They
Utter
Vows,
Wedding
Xenophobic,
Yucky
Zillionaires
Astronomical
Breakfasts.
Carlotta
Doesn’t
Enjoy
Frequently
Going
Hungry.
Instead,
Jokes
/Kids:
“Let
Me
Not
Order
Pizza”
Quite
Regularly
Aging
brings
crisis.
Despondent
elders
fast
grow
heartless:
“Immature
juveniles
lack
morality
nowadays.”
observed
Patricia.
“Quite
right.”
said
Thomas.
VOTED BEST BOOK OF 2022
I voted this book as my best book of 2022. Here’s what I had to say about it in my christmas recap newsletter.
Sorrow and Bliss was funny, romantic, heart-wrenching, witty, interesting, gripping, everything I want a book to be, and about a subject I care a lot about. Plus I read it on some rocks next to a beautifully freezing river in the north of Italy. I read it on the plane, I read it on a couch, I read it quickly. I reread the end twice. I think everyone could learn from this character and the lessons about strength and life and – IT’S JUST AMAZING TRUST ME. I reviewed it for my third review newsletter I think. And what’s sad is I have been feeling a very specific kind of frustration because of all the books I have reviewed, I feel like my review of this books was the most underwhelming. I just can’t seem to put what I loved about it into typed and formatted words. I guess I will just have to continue preying on dear friends like Ambre (a patient, beautiful soul) who indulge me in my reccommending and begging.
As a last ditch attempt to persuade you all to at least give it a go, all I can say is that both Ambre (my lovely patient poet) and Emma (who quite literally got a degree for books) cried at the end.
if you enjoyed sorrow and bliss, well done. you have good taste! (only kidding) I haven’t yet found anything quite as good. But since we have similar taste, I just know you’ll enjoy:
